Blog Post #2 Part 2

I'm sure that the scenario i have described in part 1 is a familiar one to everyone. In our time here in NUS, it isn't difficult at all to find individuals such as Aaron. The relationship that Aaron has with Jacob and his friends can be likened to how a poker card leans on another when stacked into the shape of pyramid. The moment the distance between the cards increase, everything begins to crumble.

Aaron's reactions demonstrate a lack of self awareness. He was unable to recognise his own destructive behaviour and how his over reliance on Jacob was causing a strain. He could have taken some time to reflect, consider his role in the relationship and manage his own emotions. As an individual, he also needs to take responsibility for his own work in school. I believe that with a little more initiative and a big smile, he'll be able to enlarge his social circle, thus building healthy relationships! =)

Jacob could also have managed this situation better by being more sensitive towards Aaron. Even though he might feel that Aaron is overly 'sticky' as a friend, he could have spoken to him tactfully instead of ignoring him altogether. Aaron requires some support and Jacob could have been more patient in extending a helping hand.

In all, both parties need to take responsibility for this 'decline' in their relationship.

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6 months later, Alan finally returns from the SEP! Being incredibly excited to share his stories and pictures, he arranges to meet both Aaron and Jacob for lunch. Alan, being a former student of the ES2007S course, immediately senses something is wrong between the two by reading their non-verbal cues. Eventually, Alan facilitates the sharing session and helped clear the air. To cut the long story short, Aaron is now stronger and is more balanced individual! Jacob too has benefitted and has learnt how to be more sensitive to others! And they live happily ever after till they're old and bald... =)